Reward charts

I’ve been reading about “positive parenting” this week and so
following advice that I should be praising good behaviour rather than
just reacting to bad behaviour I decided to try a reward chart.
My book said I should work with my child to establish a set of house
rules and a list of actions that can lead to hard earned reward stars,
like tidying up, sharing, not hitting your sister when you think no
one is looking, etc.  Ten stars can then equal a bigger reward, like a
cartoon.
I wasn’t sure about how impressed my daughter would be with a mere
star, but she went for it hook line and sinker.  And she’s racking
them up, especially when I could do with her watching TV so I can get
a minute’s peace and the scoring system seems to lapse slightly.
In fact it is working so well that after a bad day last week when I
seemed to spend half the morning losing my rag I decided to make one
for me.
I went online printed one off, deciding to go for the pirate theme,
although I haven’t coloured it in.
No shouting equals a glass of red come wine o’clock. Displays of
patience, more wine.  Reacting calmly to annoying whinging earns me a
biscuit and housework is rewarded with chocolate.
The fact that I would probably have had a drink/eaten chocolate
regardless of my star count is beside the point. It still cheers me
up, thinking that I’ve earned it, rather than been driven to it
through stress.
Parenting techniques have been in the news this week with the
Government launch of a £100 pilot voucher scheme for parenting classes
available in high street chain Boots.
I’d be happy to lap up any tips someone wanted to give me. Although I
am a bit dubious over what these courses will actually teach. My
anti-natal class consisting of my partner being told to give me a
Chinese burn while I stared at an imaginary candle to take my mind off
the pain didn’t seem to quite be ideal preparation for childbirth. The
breastfeeding class involved a giant plastic breast being passed round
the room, which just left me feeling hugely inadequate and that I
would never be able to feed a hungry child.
In an age when every piece of equipment you buy from mobile phones to
a pushchair comes with a yellow-pages sized instruction manual it does
seem strange that a child should come with a few leaflets.
But if we were all brought up the same where would be the fun in that
and if we all had perfect parents who else could we blame for our
short-comings in later life?

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4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Vonnie
    Jul 12, 2012 @ 15:45:48

    Hahahaha! I love the idea of a Mum reward chart. I would totally win all the hulahoops in the world every day.

    Reply

    • littlesavages
      Jul 12, 2012 @ 18:10:07

      Ooo I would love some hulahoops now! Unfortunately I don’t think have earned them having just lost me rag over some top quality whinging 😦 will have to get myself some tomorrow as motivation. Thanks for the comment

      Reply

  2. Suzanne whitton
    Jul 12, 2012 @ 15:47:54

    What a perfectly brilliant idea! I shall substitute red wine for white but apart from that, I think you’re on to a winner – you should write a book!

    Reply

  3. littlesavages
    Jul 13, 2012 @ 18:03:43

    Thanks Suzanne, hope you have earned yourself a glass of white tonight! 😉

    Reply

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